I think it is very funny that people write to advice columnists and start their letter something like this...

Dear Advice Columnist:
I am engaged to a wonderful person who is caring, loving, respectful, funny, and smart. However..... Or...

Dear Advice Columnist:
I am to be married to the most wonderful person in the world. She/he is the best thing that ever happened to me, but...

I am sorry, but if you have to write for advice about someone so wonderful and there is a “but”, why are you still engaged? Halt all plans for the wedding!

I cannot believe the “buts” that follow the description of this wonderful human being.

...but he is 42 years old and still lives at home with his mother and she doesn’t like me. What should I do?

...but she has a very bad spending habit and shops, shops, shops. Should we move to a house with bigger closets?

...but when he drinks he gets out of control and has hit me. He apologizes when he’s sober and promises not to do it again. Should I believe him?

...but he has the worst manners ever and my friends do not like him. What should I do to my friends?

I have read this kind of question many times. I do not get it. If I had my own advice column I would have a list of FAQs. The first one would be regarding the “but”.

FAQ 1. If your question has a “but” after the description of how wonderful your betrothed is, DO NOT MARRY HIM/HER!

I can hear these people after they have been married for a year or two... "If only someone had advised me not to marry."

“Please give me some good advice in your next letter. I promise not to follow it.”
~Edna St. Vincent Millay